We have to deal with critics every day, both internal critics and external critics. Many times, they stop us from doing the things or striving for the things we want most. Why is this? Why do we allow them to take control of us like this? This post is going to help you with not letting others hold you back.
How Others Held Me Back
I went to private school for my high school years. The classes were challenging, but I am a bright person. However, there were a few semesters that my grades weren’t all that great. In fact, they were merely average.
At the parent teacher conferences, the teachers all said the same thing: that I was smart, I was just lazy. This became the mantra of the rest of my high school years. I basically stopped trying. I bought into the idea that hey, I’m just lazy. That’s me. Take it for what it’s worth.
Sadly, too many of us believe this excuse. It gives us a reason to not try. Looking back on things, I know why I didn’t try. It wasn’t that I was afraid of failing. It was because I was uninterested. The subjects that I was learning about: Algebra, Biology, English Literature just didn’t’ inspire me or move me. I was more interested in Economics. That is why I did well in that class while pulling “C’s” in all of the those other classes.
Stop Letting Others Hold You Back
But, instead of trying to figure why I was uninspired or trying to find ways to make the classes more tolerable, I bought into the lie that I was just lazy. It was easier to listen to others.
Fast forward to college and I found out how to get inspired in the classes I wasn’t interested in, but had to take: make a friend. By having a friend in that class, to complain to, to study with, the class was much more enjoyable and as a result, I did better in those classes where I made friends.
Here is a fact: there will never be a day in your life when everyone agrees with you and believes in what you are doing. So if you are looking for consensus from everyone it isn’t going to happen. The key is to find those that support you and help you to grow as a person.
Don’t misunderstand that last sentence. I am not suggesting that you go out and find “yes” people, people that will always agree with you and tell you that you can never do wrong. I’m telling you to find people that are honest with you and want to help you to succeed. They may not agree with what you are doing, but they will give you constructive feedback so that you can look at a situation differently or modify your approach for more success.