People with high self-confidence are typically happier, healthier, and more at ease in social situations. However, most of us aren’t born with perfect self-confidence. In reality, confidence is a trait that’s built over a lifetime through experience and personal growth. There are a number of confidence building exercises that you can try to boost your self-esteem and confidence. This post will focus on 4 ways for how to build your confidence.
How To Build Your Confidence In 4 Ways
Know Where You Stand
What do you like about yourself? Do a self-evaluation and identify all your positive traits. These could be about your body, personality, past, or anything else. If you have trouble with this exercise, consider consulting friends, family, and those who know you best.
Write down all your positive traits and review your list. You may be surprised to realize just how long it is. Identify your favorite traits and consider why you like them best. Do you like that you’re tall, a runner, or goofy? This exercise is helpful because it identifies who you already are and helps you to appreciate the good traits that you have. Despite common misbelief, you don’t have to change yourself to become confident.
Do you have a tendency to walk with stooped shoulders or slouch in your chair? Try correcting your posture to build your confidence. Researchers have found that individuals with good posture have higher confidence in themselves than those with poor posture. In this specific study, participants were asked to either slouch in their chairs or sit up straight. They then took a business survey which included rating themselves on how well they would do as a professional employee. The slouching participants rated themselves negatively, while those in the upright position rated themselves positively.
This is an excellent example of how what we portray to others affects us internally, as well as the power of the body on the mind. Other demonstrations of this powerful effect include a study that asked participants to smile and the result was a positive mood change. Also, when men were asked to make a fist, a traditional gesture of power, they felt an increase in their self-esteem. With the power of the body in mind, try to be mindful of every physical gesture you make throughout the day. It may affect you more than you realize.
Take A Compliment
There is a tendency to avoid directly accepting a compliment at all costs. This is most often done by immediately complimenting the person who complimented you, making an excuse for the compliment, or attempting to invalidate the compliment. For example (all three in one), “I like your hair too! I actually copied this hair style from Gwyneth Paltrow. It doesn’t even look good on me.” Sound familiar?
The next time that someone offers you a compliment, instead of self-deprecatingly shrugging it off, smile and say, “Thank you.” Try writing down all the compliments you receive in a journal. Look over them occasionally to see all the positive things that people think about you. Over time, you may be able to accept these compliments as truths about yourself.
There are many exercises to help improve confidence, but confidence is ultimately a state of mind. It’s improved through continual practice and positive thinking. When growing your confidence, remain humble and avoid the pitfalls of arrogance. After all, confidence is a fine balance between humility and arrogance.
Chelsea Lord is a writer by career who continually pursues personal growth. In her personal time she enjoys yoga, meditation, and long reflective walks.