It’s a new year which means for many of us, goals to better ourselves. The sad part is that many of us fail on our resolutions. This isn’t because there is something wrong with us, it’s just that there is something wrong with the goals we set for ourselves. In this post, I am going to walk you through a few common stumbling blocks that many of us make. These errors contribute to us failing to reach our goals. With a few tweaks to the goal setting process, we can dramatically improve our odds of success.
Making Resolutions That Last
Tip #1: Be Specific
This is probably where the most of us fail when it comes to making resolutions that last. I personally even committed this mistake many times and as a result, failed to reach my goal. When you make a resolution, you need to make it specific. Many of us have a resolution to “lose weight” in the new year or “eat right”. On the surface these goals sound good, but in fact they will only lead to disappointment.
The reason is because they are not specific. How are you going to lose weight? How much weight do you want to lose? What does it mean to eat right? The less specific you are, the greater the odds of failure. Be specific with your goals. Tell yourself you want to lose X number of pounds or you want to eat X servings of fruits and vegetables per day. The more specific you are are, the greater your chances of success.
Tip #2: Take It Slow
Many times we fail at making resolutions last because we try to do too much, too quickly. We might set a goal to be more healthy, so we join a gym, start to work out and completely change our diet. This lasts for a few weeks and then we slowly stop going to the gym and start to eat unhealthy again. Why? Because we tried to do too much, too fast. Think of the person that goes out on a first date with someone and starts to imagine marriage and kids with that person. Chances are, the relationship isn’t going to last because this person is living in a fantasy world. You only went out on one date with the person. You have no idea what he or she is like. This is the same as trying to be more healthy and change everything at once.
Take one thing at a time. Join the gym and start to work out. After a few weeks, when you get settled into your new routine, you can then introduce healthier eating into your life. Enjoy the journey of a new, healthier you.
Tip #3: Don’t Wait, Do It Now!
I don’t know why it is that so many of us wait until the New Year to change things in our lives. I say, when you want to make the change, make the change, regardless of the date. I’ve started new goals for myself throughout the years. I used to wait until the New Year but many times, I wasn’t as motivated to reach a goal then as I was when I first had the inspiration. Don’t wait, start working on reaching your goal now!
Tip #4: Failing Is A Part Of Life
Don’t be afraid to fail. Chances are you will. I’ve failed miserably many, many times. The important thing to understand about failing is that you take in the failure and learn from it. This makes you less likely to repeat it. As long as you can learn from your mistakes, you will be better off. The worst thing you can do is to ignore the failure and be ashamed of it. Everyone fails. It’s a natural part of life. It’s all about how we react to that failure that determines how successful we will be.
Making resolutions that last isn’t that difficult. We just have to understand we so many of us fail, correct these errors and keep pushing forward. If you can make your goals more specific, strike when the iron is hot, take things slowly and accept failure, you will greatly improve your odds of success and the changes of reaching your goals.
Hi, my name is Don and I run Breath of Optimism. This site is here to help you stay positive and become the best you can be. We only get one shot at life, so we might as well make the most of it.