The other week as my wife and I were making dinner, the microwave shut off. Thinking a breaker flipped, I went into the utility closet to check. To my surprise, the breaker was still on. I came back out into the kitchen and looked things over. I was puzzled because everything else was working fine, except for the microwave. There was no power to it at all. I unplugged it and plugged it back it to no avail. I even plugged in another appliance to test the outlet. The outlet worked fine.
Later that night I jumped online and began to research the issue and thought I found the answer – a blown fuse. The next day I started to take apart the microwave and tested the fuses. For anyone that hasn’t dissected a microwave, there are various fuses in there. I thought I found a failed thermal fuse. I went to the local hardware store, but they didn’t carry the fuse. I had to order it online and wait a few days for it to arrive.
In the meantime, my wife and I realized just how much we use the microwave! Every time we went to heat something up, we became upset, remembering that there is no microwave. Long story short, when the fuse arrived and I installed it, the microwave was still dead. We had to buy another microwave. The frustrating part was that this microwave was only 3 years old.
Our Approach To Life
While we did get upset when we wanted to use the microwave, we quickly reminded ourselves that there is no point in doing so. We can’t control the microwave working or not, or the part I thought I needed being in stock or not. We can only control how we react.
Charles Swindoll once said….
I am convinced that life is 10% what happens to me and 90% how I react to it.
I think he is exactly right. We can’t control the traffic, our co-workers, friends, the weather, etc. All we can do is react to these things the best way possible, in a positive way.
Your Approach To Life
What does it look like to respond to life in a positive way? Simply put, you don’t let things affect you and ruin your day. It’s easy to get mad on the drive to work when you get stuck in traffic. If you do get mad, that anger will resonate with you the rest of the day, ruining your entire day. Stop and think about that for a moment. You allowed traffic to ruin an entire day of your life. That is a day you will never get back.
Instead of focusing on the great things you have in life – a loving family, wonderful kids, your health – you chose to focus on the traffic.
Realize that I am not saying focusing on the positive side of things is easy. We are human after all and do get caught up in the moment. But if you can remember that you are in control of your emotions, you will know that you can flip the switch at any moment.
Flipping The Switch
This is your goal, to flip the switch. When you get mad, upset or frustrated, you need to flip the switch. Change your thinking from negative to positive. Flipping the switch won’t come easy at first, especially if you are someone that always focuses on the negative side of life. Because of this, here are a few ideas that might help you flip the switch.
As days go by, you will notice that you are in a better mood more often than not. This is because you changed your approach to life. You realized that you can’t control what happens to you, you can only control how you react to it.
How many times do you catch yourself saying “I’d be happy if…”? If you say this, you are allowing others to control you and your emotions. Take your life back and decide to control your emotions by focusing on the positive. Don’t let outside forces weigh you down. You can’t control these things. They are going to happen and they happen to everyone. If you can change your approach to life, learn to control how you react to situations, let things roll off your back and not ruin your day, you are going to realize a happier, healthier life.
Make the decision to be happy regardless of what happens to you in life. Know that in the long run, the bad traffic, the rude relative, or the unruly neighbor doesn’t matter. They are just a short term nuisance. Of course, being human, we will still have our moments of negativity. The key is to rid it from our minds before it takes root and plants itself there. For help with finding the good in every situation, be sure to check out 30 Days To Positive Thinking.
Hi, my name is Don and I run Breath of Optimism. This site is here to help you stay positive and become the best you can be. We only get one shot at life, so we might as well make the most of it.