7 Tips To Learn How to Love Yourself Again

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It is hard to love yourself at times, isn’t it?​

Perhaps you have had a hard time lately, gone through a break-up, lost friends, or other personal issues that have left you with a poor relationship with yourself. 

It is hard to love yourself during these times, and finding a way to love yourself again can be challenging.

We have all been there.

For example, after a break-up, I was emotionally exhausted and felt so at a loss for myself.

But now, I am in a  place where I feel an abundance of love for myself.

Today I am going to share with you how to love yourself again.

7 Tips To Learn How To Love Yourself Again

#1. Remember This Is A Journey

how to love yourself again

Before we get onto loving ourselves again, it is worth remembering a few things.

The first is that this is a process, and it will take time to love yourself again.

Do not let that put you off!

With a few little tricks and changes to your life, you will be back on the self-love train again.

The longest relationship you will have in life is the one with yourself, so why not invest in it and make it a positive one?

It is also important to remember that everyone is different but no less deserving of love.

These differences mean that what works for one person may not work for you.

Some of these tips may work great and others may not work as well for you.

Be sure to try a few out and find what works for you. 

#2. Reclaim Yourself 

It can feel odd at first, but telling yourself what you love about yourself is a great way to accept yourself and begin to love yourself again.

You can look in a mirror and say these aloud.

Hearing them can often help you believe that these things are true. 

These things do not have to be physical attributions.

For example, you could say, ‘I love how I have overcome so much,’ or, ‘I love my hair.’

Accepting and loving yourself will improve all aspects of your life, especially social interaction.

After all, how can we see good in others if we cannot see the good in ourselves? 

#3. Acceptance

In life, you cannot go backward, only forwards.

We cannot change what has already happened, but we can change our reactions to the past.

These things have happened.

My relationship broke down, I cannot change that, but I can accept it.

When someone you love leaves you, nine times out of 10, it reflects them and not you.

Accepting this will save you some heartache. 

Your past is part of you. Sitting around and relieving it is never going to change it

Instead, focus on what you can do now.

You can forgive yourself for the harsh words you have exchanged and work on positive steps for the future, such as constructive criticism or more positive language. 

#4. Cut Them Out

In life, we come across people who can negatively impact our lives.

They can make us feel negative about ourselves.

It is a crime against yourself to let these people bring you down.

This can be a challenging step, possibly one of the hardest, but removing these people from your lives will drastically improve your relationship with yourself. 

If this seems drastic, you may want to speak to the person and let them know how you feel to see if there is a compromise to make.

Perhaps they were not aware of how they were making you feel and can make changes to your relationship. 

While removing negative people from your life can be difficult, mostly if you were close or they are a family member, anything that derails from your self-love should not be welcome in your life. 

#5. Change Can Be Good

I am the first to say I hate change.

However, not all change is bad.

Perhaps an activity you once loved you have grown to hate, or your job is negatively impacting you?

The feeling of self-loathing is not welcome in your life or journey to loving yourself. 

While it can be overwhelming, making a positive change can allow you to feel love for yourself.

Changing your job for the one you love or letting go of the pilates classes you loathe will give you the time to do something you truly love and, in turn, love yourself more. 

#6. Enjoy The Little Things In Life

Making time for yourself every day will help build that relationship of love with yourself.

After all, it is the little things in life that bring us joy. 

Why not take ten minutes to write in a diary?

Keeping a journal of your thoughts and feelings can help with the journey of loving yourself again.

An adult coloring book, a new TV show, baking, whatever your interests may be, try and make the time for something you enjoy.

Reading books about self-love might also be helpful to you and your journey! 

These do not have to be time-consuming tasks, something as simple as singing along to your favorite song in the car can bring a sense of joy and something that always makes me smile. 

Taking joy in the little things that bring you joy will help you appreciate your life, your time, and your love for yourself.

Treating yourself to these little things will no doubt put a smile on your face.

#7. It’s OK To Make Mistakes

No one could say that once you love yourself again, you will be absolved of any mistakes and wearing a halo at all times.

Part of loving yourself is accepting your flaws and that you will undoubtedly make mistakes. 

We are all only human. Mistakes are inevitable.

You can still love yourself and make mistakes.

Do not let the fear of making a mistake stop you from trying something new or making a decision.

Remember that you have enough love for yourself to learn from these mistakes, accept them, and continue your journey of self-love. 

Final Thoughts

At the end of the day, it can indeed be challenging to love yourself, but that does not mean we should not.

There are a few ways we can do this, and it is so vital that you find a method that works for you. 

Loving yourself isn’t all about slapping a face mask on and calling it self-care.

The first day of the rest of your life starts now, and it is going to be glorious!

It may challenge everything you believe in, but believe me, the result of acceptance and an abundance of love for yourself is worth it. 

Remember that you are more than enough and deserving of your love.

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